“Sometimes it’s tough being a single mom, especially when you’re abroad. I came here to be with this guy I was in a long-distance relationship with. I left everything behind, my whole life in Jakarta, to find work in a foreign country and live with him. But after six months, we decided to part ways since he got a job offer in Singapore and me and my son (who was 12 years old then) didn’t want to relocate again. It wasn’t an easy decision to make. But hey, that’s life. And my son, who’s a teenager now, had one hell of a time adjusting to the language and culture. Good thing there’s an Indonesian school in Tokyo and he finally started behaving well. I don’t know how long we’ll stay but I still got three years left on my visa.”

The silver lining: “We met on Tinder two years ago and we’ve been dating ever since. He’s great around my son. He even moved in with us. Maybe things are finally looking up after all.”

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