“I’ve always wanted to live here from a really young age. Pretty much my whole life. So every decision I’ve made has been to get to where I am now. But now that I’m here, I don’t think I’ve ever really thought about what’s next. And being so separated from my support network in New Zealand, from everyone, is tough. I also left my partner behind for him to sort his life out. We’ve been together for nine years and now it’s been six months since I came to Japan. This is the longest we’ve been apart ever.

“He had a lot of issues with his health through university. He had ulcerative colitis, which basically affects the lining of your large intestines. I was taking care of him a lot. I’ve even put some things off for a while, which is probably for the best. But then I needed to go, to see what life’s like here. Thankfully, he was very encouraging. Right now he’s figuring out what his life is like without me because he’s been dependent on me. He’s figuring out how to work 40 hours a week while dealing with sickness and keeping an income.”

“Living in Japan, I’ve had so many good opportunities. The people I’ve met are amazing. It’s just the little things that make it harder. Back home, if something goes wrong or something just sucks, I can always go home, chill, be with my partner, or play some games. But here, I go home and I’m alone. It’s hard knowing you’re so isolated from everything. Before I was doing videos on YouTube. But I took a break from it because I think it’s just really hard juggling everything and I don’t really know what to show. It’s hard to be like, ‘My life’s amazing!’ when your life is not so amazing.”

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